Once a person decides not to use drugs anymore, how does he or she end up using again? Do relapses happen completely by accident? Or are there warning signs and ways to avoid relapse?
Relapse justification is a process that happens in people’s minds. A person may have decided to stop using, but the person’s brain is still healing and still feels the need for the substances. The addicted brain invents excuses that allow the person in recovery to edge close enough to relapse situations that accidents can happen. You may remember a time when you intended to stay substance free but you invented a justification for using. Then, before you knew it, you had used again.
Use the questions below to help you identify justifications invented by your addicted brain. Identifying and anticipating the justifications will help you interrupt the process.
Someone Else’s Fault
Does your addicted brain ever convince you that you have no choice but to use? Does an unexpected situation catch you off guard? Have you ever said any of the following to yourself?
● An old friend called, and we decided to get together.
● I had friends come for dinner, and they brought me some wine.
● I was in a bar, and someone offered me a beer.
● Other: ___________________________________________
Catastrophic Events
Is there one unlikely, major event that is the only reason you would
use? What might such an event be for you?
● My spouse left me. There’s no reason to stay clean.
● I just got injured. It’s ruined all of my plans. I might as well use.
● I just lost my job. Why not use?
● There was a death in the family. I can’t get through this without using.
● Other: ____________________________________________
Depression, Anger, Loneliness, and Fear
Does feeling depressed, angry, lonely, or afraid make using seem like the answer?
● I’m depressed. What difference does it make whether I use?
● When I get mad enough, I can’t control what I do.
● I’m scared. I know if I use, the feeling will go away.
● If my partner thinks I’ve used, I might as well use.
● Other: ______________________________________________
What might you do when your addicted brain suggests these excuses to use? ______________________________________________